I Hurt My Back, Oh Well, Oh My!

 Using EFT for physical issues has been a long standing practice. 

In his book called "The Biology of Belief", Bruce Lipton talks about how almost every physical issue (illness, disease or injury) begins with a thought or an emotional environment that leads to the problem. I made this short video about how I tripped over some stairs and fell, injuring my back. In that video, I show you how to apply language and Tapping to relieve the pain and subsequent injury

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Most of us have beliefs around how we get sick or develop chronic illnesses. Much of the time we equate "diseases" like cancer, IBS or diabetes to genetic anomalies in our system. Lipton has proven that 99% of "disease" is not purely genetic and that we have control over the emotional soup we serve up to our bodies that trigger potential genes to activate and create illness. If this is true, then we have the power to heal ourselves. As you were taught to live with stress and negative self talk you can be taught to live in harmony with your body. This training takes practice so don't be hard on yourself about being hard on yourself. These are just old habits. Old habits are hard to break at first but persistence wins out. Every time you engage in stressful thinking question those thoughts and say something like "is that a loving thought?" "Oh well, just the old habit" and then find something to be grateful for. Feeling and expressing gratitude is the fastest way to generate more of what we want in life. (paraphrased from Dr. Joe Dispenza in his book called "Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself" "How to lose your mind and create a new one".) (love that title).

 

Imagine living in a toxic stew of stress hormones for most of our waking hours. Imagine waking up frequently at night worrying about what you have to do, what you haven't done, who you offended, who offended you or how your kids are. Then imagine that some of your loved ones have high blood pressure or heart disease and you believe it is only a matter of time before heart disease shows up for you. May as well worry about that also, while you are worrying.

 

All the while, toxic stress hormones, cortisol and adrenaline among them, are coursing through your body from the moment of awakening to the moment of sleep and beyond, as you wake up fretting in the night. Day after day you create and launch acidic chemicals throughout your body with the (unintended) intention of receiving heart disease because "it is genetic". It doesn't take a geneticist to understand that worrying about what can go wrong creates more of what can go wrong.

 

Tapping to the rescue! Using EFT multiple times a day to relieve stress and anxiety turns down the stress hormone response. Re framing the language from worry to "I am safe now" or something similar, while "Tapping" changes the internal narrative from fear to love. Love yourself, you deserve it. If you don't believe that book a private appointment and I will show you how to believe it.

 

One of the best ways to overcome stress, fear and anxiety is to join us for Level 1 and 2 EFT training and, at the very least, join us for Tuesday night group. Best 10 bucks you will ever spend.

 

Hope to see you at 'Tapping' Group Tuesday at 7 Atlantic

Why is it good to "Tap" every day?

I have been teaching and practicing EFT "Tapping" for the past 11 years. While I admit to some lapses, I have been tapping on my own stuff almost every day since I learned how to tap.

The reasons to tap are unlimited. You can try it on anything and everything and you never know when a hidden limiting belief will pop up for you to erase. What a concept!

Lots of times I find myself tapping because I feel silly crying over good things that happen (my 15-year-old son calls me a marshmallow). I am a huge proponent of being in touch with and experiencing feelings, both good and not so good (there are no bad feelings as they are within us for a reason). So, I might be watching a movie and the tension has been built up between the son and the father and the tension breaks, they forgive each other and remember why they love each other, my heart expands and I start to get all teary-eyed (see? marshmallow). The best thing to do in the moment is simply to tap. Tapping balances the subtle energy system, relieves the tears and allows me to see clearly what was important to me in that emotional scene. Insight equals wisdom

While it is useful to make an appointment with yourself to, sit down, figure out what's bothering you, feel the feeling of that botherment (is that a word?), identify how strong the emotion is and tap it away, this is not what this post is about.

• I am talking about, for example, walking in the mall, noticing something that upsets you (mom being mean to 6-year-old daughter), and simply going through the tapping points to clear the negative energy. 
• I am talking about watching your kid's soccer game, feeling frustrated with the referee because of several "bad" calls and tapping to calm down before you yell something you regret. 
• I'm talking about tapping about the anxiety you might feel before talking to a work colleague about something that is bothering you knowing full well he/she will become defensive and not knowing how to say what you believe you have to say. It is my experience that the compulsion to "say" something often goes away when I tap on the feeling. This has saved me many a confrontation.

So, the original question was WHY tap every day? I have given you a few ideas about things to tap on but why is tapping so beneficial when applied to seemingly small situations.

• Reduce cortisol and adrenaline and other stress hormones in the body that lead to pain, illness and anxiety.
• Discover hidden subconscious beliefs you didn't even know you had and either eliminate them on the spot or make them clear to you for later when you are doing your work
• Stay friends with your work colleagues, lovers, friends and slow-witted grocery clerks (also referees who appear to be blind but are doing the best they know how)
• Forgive yourself for being human, having a human experience and messing up once in a while.

There are many other reasons but these should be enough to get you tapping on a daily basis. Get in the habit of using tapping as your go-to coping mechanism when you are stressed, anxious, angry or feeling out of sorts.

I want nothing more for you than to be at peace with yourself, your environment and the World around you. Let me know if I can be of service in that regard.
with love and gratitude,
al


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FaceBook Live to Answer Your Questions

A few years ago I offered a free online audio program called 8 for 8. I am sure some of you remember it. The idea was to get online every Monday morning at 8 am Eastern time and talk about ideas and concepts that you seemed to care about. While they didn't always, the talks were supposed to run for 8 minutes. Half was dedicated to talking about the issue and the other 4 minutes was devoted to "Tapping" on it. The live portion was on audio but I also video recorded the talk and uploaded it to YouTube. Those YouTube videos are still live and if you would like to see some of them again (or for the first time) please click on this link and subscribe to my YouTube channel.

I have decided to revisit the concept of a weekly call with a couple of changes. Thanks to new technology it is as easy to directly video record as it was for audio and, through FaceBook, you will be able to comment and ask for topics to be covered. NOW the talks become interactive and you are partly responsible for what I talk about and even how I talk about it.

I have titled this idea: MINDSET MAKEOVER! I have created a group called, you guessed it........MINDSET MAKEOVER on FaceBook as a platform to market the idea through and you need to be a member in order to be guaranteed a reminder of the meeting

The content is NOT FREE! If you wish to be a part of this self-healing journey you must be prepared to "comment", "like" and "share" with friends. It's true, there is no free lunch but I hope the price of entry is not too large for you. Because of FaceBook's technology, you may visit the talk whenever you are able but live comments will happen between 8 am and 8:15 Eastern Daylight Time. Once the talk is complete it will also be added in sequence to my YouTube channel so don't forget to subscribe so you are reminded when a video is uploaded to my channel.

NOW! Tomorrow morning at 8 am Eastern I will be on FaceBook Live for about 15 minutes. We will be thinking about Loving Your Neighbor. This is where you weigh in and make suggestions. Please reply to this email with any ideas you might have on this topic.

See you tomorrow morning bright and early.
al

Unstated Expectations

Have you ever experienced someone getting mad at you or being disappointed in you and you had no idea why? As far as you are concerned everything is fine between you, you are getting along and there seems to be no problem, then, without warning, the mood changes, there is frustration, anger or sadness and you have no idea what happened.

Often, you have been the victim of unstated expectations. This is a common condition among people who are in a relationship. It could happen at work, school, home or any number of situations.

The problem begins when person A believes that person B "should know" what they want or how they might feel and person B doesn't have a clue.

Since person B doesn't have a clue what person A is thinking, person B doesn't live up to the expectation of person A who becomes disappointed, angry or frustrated. Then, person A begins a series of stories in his/her head that makes person B wrong or unfeeling or uncaring. This often leads to accusations and arguments.

Person A has taken personally the apparent shortcoming of person B and has his/her feelings bruised. Does this sound familiar? Are you person A or person B in the relationship? Perhaps you are both depending on who you are relating to.

The problem begins with the expectation and lack of transparency about what that expectation is. It's all about communication! The solution is simple. If you are the person (person A) who has an expectation of person B make sure you spell out, clearly, lovingly and in detail what it is you expect from your friend or partner. Give them the opportunity to say "sure, I can do that" or no, that doesn't work for me but I could help you in this way". Create dialogue rather than assume (we all know what that leads to) your friend or partner can and does read your mind.

Conflict is a part of life and every relationship experiences conflict at some time or another. Unstated expectations are a major source of conflict in many relationships and can be minimized by the practise of expressing your expectations and listening to the response with a loving heart. You may not always get the response you wish for but at least you know the outcome before being disappointed.

Remember also that nothing is personal (Don Miguel Ruiz: The Four Agreements) even if it appears to be directly aimed at you. Nothing is personal as it comes from the dream of someone else's reality. No-one knows who you really are or what your motives are for your behaviours so whether you are person A or B what's really happening is meant to bring you growth and healing. If you take it personally you stunt your own personal growth.

Finally, as always, there are two practices you can engage in that will help when you find it difficult to stay grounded and unoffended:

1. Clean on it: I love you, I am sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you. Speak to that part of you that is connected to your higher power. Take responsibility for everything that shows up in your life. This doesn't mean the problem is your fault. In fact, there is no blame to share. What it means is that everything happens for a reason, is happening for you, not to you and is a part of your human physical experience. It is to be celebrated not resisted.
2. Tap on it: "Even though she/he hurt my feelings, I love and accept myself deeply and completely" or "even though I take this personally I love and forgive myself"

Until next time, be well, be wise, be loving and listen to your inner voice.

Al

EFT Hits the BigTime

EFT Hits the BigTime: 

Freedom from PTSD, Stress, Anxiety, Panic Attack

EFT has been proven in more than 100 clinical trials to be effective for relief from stress, anxiety, PTSD and panic attacks. Recent endorsements by the US Veterans Administration and Kaiser Permanente (one of the largest healthcare providers and insurers in the US) have approved EFT as an effective treatment for PTSD within 10 sessions or less. EFT is safe and effective.

Many people suffer from anxiety, stress, panic attacks, depression and PTSD. Families and loved ones of those who are inflicted with these issues suffer along with them. Goals and aspirations are often lost or put on hold while people deal with their stressors. Many people lose hope that there can be an answer.
Some use medications which can be useful but also addictive and may cause serious medical and psychological side effects not to mention the exorbitant costs of some of these drugs.

• I recently read a series of posts on FaceBook about Lyrica costing people as much as $500/month. [A good reflexologist, some EFT "Tapping" and learning to love the pain has healed many from the symptoms that Lyrica only professes to manage without the side effects]

Many people find me when all else seems to have failed. Hope for a cure is elusive and people simply feel stuck.
I use a proven system that combines EFT and Spiritual guidance to coach you to emotional freedom. I teach you how to love and accept yourself the way that you are at any given moment in order to overcome your fears permanently and completely.
You come away feeling like you can live again without self-doubt or anxiety. I like to think of myself as a purveyor of hope, first and foremost.

Case Study: Bob came to me with Crone's disease. He had been suffering and on medication for more than 24 years. Our two-hour session quickly led us to the core emotional issue he had taken on 24 years earlier and we worked to reframe how he felt about what had happened far in the past. He immediately felt better both physically and emotionally. Six months later he was given a clean bill of health by his Dr. and removed from medication. He has been free and clear for 5 years to date.

The great news is it doesn't matter what is bothering you. It is my experience that the underlying issue is based in fear. Why not meet me online for a free 1/2 hour session? We can talk about your goals and aspirations, create some hope around your issues and make sure we feel comfortable working together. Simply register here.

Another option is to join us for Level 1 and 2 EFT Training workshops coming up this weekend. Learn how to practice EFT for yourself and others, make an investment in your health and wellbeing and feel confident that satisfaction is guaranteed. Learn more and register here

10 Tips for a Calmer You

Many of my clients ask me how to release stress and anxiety. The world is a very interesting place right now, with climate events, fires, strong viewpoints about immigration and nuclear threats from North Korea.
Astrologically, we recently experienced a total eclipse of the sun, Mercury is in retrograde and the sun is shooting off flares causing the Aurora Borealis (Northern Lights) to be seen as far South as Toronto.
All of these events affect our energy and the way we feel about our daily life.
Many people are talking about this feeling in their chest or the pit of their stomach that can only be described as anxiety.
There are, perhaps thousands of potential beneficial techniques that you can try to reduce stress and anxiety but I thought I would share 10 of my favorites.
Here are my 10 best tips for a calmer you:
10: Talk about your feelings: Many of us have been taught that showing our feelings is a sign of weakness. I contend that we were given those feelings by our Creator for a reason. Sharing how you feel with loved ones is a great way to feel more relaxed. Begin your conversation with "I feel....." as no one has the right to dispute how you feel. Be careful not to judge the other person or blame them or perceive them as being "wrong".
9: Walk around barefoot on the Earth for 30 minutes or more. Our homes are really well insulated, there are concrete floors and vapor barrier on our walls. Electrical wires carry energy throughout the home. We were designed to be better grounded than we are able to be. Re-connecting with Mother Earth is a great way to release the negative effects of terrestrial and emotional energy.
8: Laugh out-loud: The old adage "Laughter is the best medicine" is not just cliche. There have been many studies that prove multiple benefits from laughter. Find an old sit-com (no gratuitous violence or passive aggressive themes like the 3 Stooges or RoadRunner cartoons), read a silly joke book. There is a reason goofy cat videos are so popular on the internet.
7: Pat your pets: People who have pets tend to live longer and have fewer health issues. Spend time grooming, playing or even talking to your pets. Our pets love us unconditionally and spending time with them is a great way to reduce stress.
6:  Take a step back: Whenever you are in a stressful situation literally take 1 step back and look at it as if it is happening to someone else. Ask yourself how you would advise a friend to feel if he/she were in the situation. Many of us find it easy to advise others but don't think to advise ourselves in the same way.
5: Love what is: The wisdom of Byron Katie (www.thework.com) shares with us the idea that we all came to Earth to learn how to love ourselves and everything around us no matter how awful it may seem at the time. When you feel anxious, close your eyes and find the feeling of it in your body. Quietly say "I love you" over and over again to that part of you that feels stressed. Imagine the stress is there because a part of you needs more love. Answer the call.
4: Meditate: Many people tell me they have a hard time meditating but with technology, meditation is done for you. Simply go online (Youtube) and find a meditation (20 minutes or more) that has "binaural beats" associated with it. These meditations are designed to literally put your brain in a meditative state. Use a pair of quality headphones or ear buds to listen as it is important to have a stereo effect. Here is one of my favorites: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3CYJmkjX8o)
3:  Go for a walk in nature: There has been a study done recently that compared one group of people walking in a busy city environment to a different group that walked for the same amount of time in a natural wooded setting. Stress hormones, particularly cortisol and adrenaline were significantly lower in the group that walked in nature. When they switched the groups the results were the same.
2: Clean (I love you, I am sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you): The Spiritual practice of Ho'oponopono teaches us that "cleaning" erases old memories that cause us to feel stress and anxiety. This prayer, spoken silently to your own inner Divinity, takes responsibility for those unwanted memories and "cleans" them up. Cleaning has changed everything in my world. You don't have to understand it or do it with feeling; "Just do it"
1: Tap on it: No matter what is bothering you 'Tapping", EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques will make it better. Here is a link to a short Youtube video I created to show you how to "TAP" (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=olzIgvichEI&t=9s)

So those are my top 10 tips to a calmer you. Why not pick one or two that resonate with you, try them out, and let me know what you think.
Remember, Level 1 and 2 EFT training workshops are happening on Octobre 28 and 29. You won't want to miss it. For more information and to register go here.
Until then stay calm and practice loving yourself. Post your comments below and, while you're at it, please share on social media.